Long time Vdrummer here. I've been recording with these for for about 10 years and have toured with them as well.
I use a TD-10 with 8 inch mesh pads all around, I decided to get smaller pads for a smaller foot print. Bigger sizes definitely have a better feel, way more natural. As far as being quieter, try smacking your mouse pad with a wooden spoon HARD. That's about what they sound like. The bigger problem is the foot pedals, as you are basically stomping on the floor. If you are in a basement, it shouldn't be an issue.
With the TD-10 my biggest issue was the sounds themselves, very 80's and not really usable for natural sounding drums. I have been using SuperiorDrummer triggered through MIDI and it's absolutely perfect. The kits are professionally sampled in major studios and you get a great set of options, Ludwig Black Beautys, Slingerlands, K-Series cymbals, etc. If you are setting up a recording rig, definitely look at getting a good sample set. I'm sure the TD-30 is much better than the 10 but the Superior, BFD or Slate sample packs will blow you away. I've been recording as a professional and an amateur for over 15 years now, in some of Canada's biggest studio and these sample packs are what you are hearing on a lot of big releases being put out today.
The thing with the cymbals is that I only have the solid rubber pads but have tried the cymbal shaped triggers. They can't mimic real cymbals in feel yet but you get used to them quickly. With my kit, I adapt my strokes a bit as I still play acoustic kits in bands but the V-Cymbals feel pretty good after a while.
I haven't had a chance to play other shells or pads (Pintech, Yamaha, etc) but I've heard others who have different preferences for those. I think the Roland brains are the best you can get for triggering and looking at the newer shells that come in the TD-30 setup, you would be pretty happy. Definitely spend some time trying them out in a store if you have access.