You'll know once you clean it up. Probably not if you didn't short anything though.
You actually are ignoring most of the help, by asking for someone who has experience and has specific answers, because when those people give you the benefit of their experience and specific answers, you're ignoring them because it seems like you do not *want* to go back to a known starting point.
In my opinion and based on my experience, when the solenoid bus got cross connected to the switch matrix, all bets are off as to what's damaged. Some chips take overvoltage better than others, and there's no magic answer of when you did THIS, THESE chips are damaged. When you started off with the game going into audits, you likely had a memory protect issue. Pretty easy to fix, relatively speaking. It's either the memory protect circuit or the 5101.
This is where things went south, with the various things and dead ends you have been going down. You need to get it back to the condition you had it in when you got it.... and that means going back to first principles. All chips except microprocessor out, get a logic probe/scope and start seeing if the address bus is cycling. You go up from there.
Scattershot isn't anything other than basically checking the general condition. Say you reseated the 40 pin connected and it had started working.... does that mean you 'fixed' it? No, you actually identified something that might be an issue. It's more of a diagnosis tool. I'd call that more of an operator hack from back in the day.... try these 3 things and if you get it working, go onto the next call.
Shotgunning would be just replacing parts, just because. You're kind of at that point now. For instance the special solenoid circuit you replaced everything but you didn't replace one of the chips, because you didn't have it. Hope that chip didn't turn out to the issue!
What I'm advising to do at this point is get the mpu board to the most basic condition you can, and test things. It's a lot easier to diagnose what's wrong and what should be looked at with less variables. Williams even helps you if you have a scope available by showing you what the signals should look like in their manuals (as do some of the repair guides).
You are looking for a quick fix. There's no longer a quick fix on this boardset.