Starbase,
I think everyone deserves to be happy, to find someone they care about and who they can spend their life with. I don't think anyone is trying to piss on your happiness or insult Thailand, but the limited information you have provided us with sounds like you could be pinning your hopes on a risky proposition. I hope I am wrong and reading into things too much, but maybe you should temper your expectations? I am sending positive vibes your way, and hoping for the best for you brother.