When my youngest left the house for college five hours away, we went out to eat every night that week - it was pretty quiet at the house and we didn't know what to do I think.

The youngest is out of college now and moved just 30 minutes away. It is nice she has her own house to go home to as we have gotten use to being able to do our own thing (though I now have a new set of to do's helping her with her house!)

As far of what scares you the most, I agree the loss of a child would nearly be unbearable. I lost a brother growing up and it still weighs on me decades later. For the most part, though, I am not scared of much but am cautious of a lot of things.

After I got back from an Afghanistan deployment, I noticed every white Toyota car or truck that got near me for a long time (the vehicle of choice for VBIEDs as they are all over the middle east). I wouldn't call that being scared, just being cautious.

We use to drive across a very old bridge with our kids when they were young in Fenton Missouri we called the "Scary Bridge". It was the old Gravois Road Meramac River Bridge. Demolished and replaced in 2010. In finding a picture I saw at the end of its life it was rated for only 3 tons.

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