For what it's worth, I would take measurements and good close-up photos and call / email Mouser Electronics or DigiKey. They will be able to help. With thousands of connectors, you are trying to find a needle in a hay stack.
Molex, Amp, Amphenol, Tyco, etc make thousands each. I know I have extraction tools from many of the vendors, but we come across new ones from time to time.