Quoted from jonnyo:
We have *some* women saying that. And there are *some* who might be making them feel that way (as yet, haven't seen the proof)
That's a good a summation of how men tend to react in these situations. Anyone that speaks up about it ends up being attacked, dragged through the mud, and then dismissed, so that people can go on believing it's only a select group of miserable fun killers who have a problem, and those type of people don't really count.
This tendency also happens to work as a fantastic deterrent to anyone else who might make any noise about feeling unwelcome.
It's just about the most predictable thing in the world that cait001's personal life would be brought into the conversation, and not a coincidence that it happened to the woman and none of the myriad men participating in the thread. I think these patterns are pretty easy to see once you know what they tend to be.
Being dudes, we are not always the most aware and observant, and not always great at understanding how our actions affect others.