The discussion about Millennials, FIRE, etc. etc is fascinating to me because it is so out of the frame of my mindset. I am by no means judging, but it is just eyeopening to see what motivates different people. I sincerely appreciate the folks sharing their experiences, and in that same spirit, will share mine. Consider it a different opinion. It is by no means right or wrong.
I am soon to be 44 and grew up hard, so that always frames my mindset. When I was finishing up college (poor kid on an academic full ride), I set some financial goals of where I wanted to be at certain ages. I did not set non-financial goals, which in hindsight, was a lack of maturity and being myopic. The good news is that I blew through my goals fairly early and then the oh-shit moment happened: What do I do next? This is actually a fairly scary moment in your life (at least it was for me) and it took me a while to get oriented. To make a long, personal epic short, my wife and I decided that we wanted more in life. Some people will misconstrue this as material in nature, but it was about having a more fulfilling life based upon our interests. We also wanted it now, in the prime of our life, as opposed to our late 60's. I wanted to set the foundation for multi-generational wealth so that my daughter's kids would not have to worry about school. This meant working even harder and taking calculated risks. Who knows what the future holds, but I know that I am doing everything possible to tip the odds even further in my favor.
As a Generation X'er, in the 90's you always heard about people selling out to the Man. Nobody wanted to be a sellout. Of course, as you get older, your perceptions change. To borrow a catchphrase from Seth Rollins, I didn't sell out; I bought in.
I see people talk about saving more, but very rarely talking about making more. This always intrigues me. My thought is as opposed to relying upon only spending a certain percentage of savings, I am going to focus on stacking it deep and piling it high. I think this is what also motivates me to be a student of the markets and to put in the effort that I do: to make that money work harder for me. I think asymmetrically, which is a military concept that is beginning to permeate some areas of business. Some interesting areas of reading there if you are interested.
Now this does not mean it is all roses for me. I will probably work longer (was going to anyway because I love what I do), and it puts more pressure on me to perform. I have learned through a lot of trial and error to separate work time from family time, but I am always on. Use whatever trite analogy that you like about golden handcuffs, gilded cages, etc that you like, but to live the lifestyle that I want and at the level that I want, I have to keep working. My profession tends to make high performers mercenary in nature, which means that I will switch jobs every few years. In the last 6 years I traded suits for jeans and sports coats for most meetings, and in non Covid times my office is my Jeep, Seat 10C, or my home office. I haven't had an official office in 10 years, but my home office is better equipped than most office spaces. Days start early and can end whenever. I have flexibility in my schedule but when things pop up, I have to be there. But in my analysis, the juice is worth the squeeze for my family and me. Everybody has to make that decision for themselves.
In the sales and performance coaching arenas, people often use the clip from the movie "Glengarry Glen Ross" as a litmus test of sorts. I am including it below. It is very NSFW from a language perspective, so consider that. The setup: people are selling timeshares and not having a lot of success. The main office sends in their top performer to give a pep talk. There have been a lot of academic and analytical papers written about this scene and how people react to it. Broadly, people fit into two categories after watching it: they are motivated beyond everything to go take the hill or they are shocked and appalled. Curious to people's reactions, particularly younger folks that probably have not seen the movie.
Again, thank you for indulging me. I wish everybody continued success.