What's up Gunnut? Met you with Who-Dey at Pincinnati this year. Two of the best threads on here about tools and technique that will help you are: Best Soldering irons, and Terry B's guide to soldering. Can't go wrong with either.
Quoted from wayout440:Seriously. If you have shaky hands, spend your $500 hiring someone else to do your board work.
This could be very good advice if you shake a lot, extra hand holders will only help the hand not holding the iron. Chris Hibler does good board work and also Marks Pinball which is somewhat local for you.
See you next year at Pincinnati???