Thanks guys! Here's the update:
I was getting even more erratic behavior with the kicker firing only sometimes.. so I got out the soldering iron this morning and started taking a look. I finally realized one of the wires had broken loose on the kicker so I resoldered that and reflowed the other lug but that didn't fix the problem. So here's what I did so so far without fixing the issue:
I reflowed solder to both optos.
Rechecked connections on the long-hop board, took it off then and reflowed the opto headers and cleaned up the dust on the backside. (all the connections looked good on the components)
Switched out the optos on both sides with a used spares I had.
Did switch tests trying to wiggle the hell out of the miniPF, opto connections/wiring, motor.. trying to mimick any vibration the motor would cause.
So.... I've been wondering about the voltage dropping when the motor starts as well since it triggers the opto every time, but only once.. as if the +12 voltage drops out momentarily when there's the inrush of current to the motor. This seems to make the most sense right now. But how do I get the voltage back up if that's the case? I'm going to check the +12v and see where it's at. I wonder if my motor is just starting to go out and maybe drawing too much current? Anyone found low voltage on the 12v and corrected it successfully? What should the optos measure closed and open? Can someone check there's for me?