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Rest in peace, my beautiful wife

By Edenecho

2 years ago

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  • Latest reply 4 months ago by ManyQuarters
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#251 1 year ago

I just came across this, wow that is so terrible on so many levels. You know its hard enough to find a partner in life, and sometimes you realize you don't have much in common. But to find someone you connect with on every single level, like your best friend in the entire World that is hard to find and virtually impossible to replace. What you're going thru has to be very hard, but lucky for you it seems she lives on thru both of your passions for pinball. It also appears you have a lot of support from this community. Life can be very unfair and even downright brutal... but I have no doubt every time you hit a jackpot she's right there with you! So sorry for you brother but one day you'll play a game together again! Trust me!

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#252 1 year ago

I read and appreciate all the words here, so thankful!

This coming saturday 20th July, I am having a memorial tournament for her, actually 2 tournaments, one early and one later in the evening. I have bought some trophies which has the outline from her great pinball pose, so the winners will be able to take something memorable home. I will also do an honest attempt at streaming the qualifying and the finals at RedRoomPinball on twitch Link to come.

The games are set up and ready Now just hoping for the GOT code to come before the weekend!

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#253 1 year ago

The memorial tournament was a real success, lots of nice players and a good atmosphere of remembrance
Here are the winners from the second tournament that day, me to the left winning the 2nd place

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#255 1 year ago

Such a great story built upon a tragedy. Congrats on the 2nd place, and more importantly, well done on a fitting remembrance.

#256 1 year ago

So sorry... the pinball stance trophies were a great idea!

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#257 11 months ago

I truly admire your chin up approach. It is not only refreshing, but inspiring!

#258 11 months ago
Quoted from RonSS:

I truly admire your chin up approach. It is not only refreshing, but inspiring!

Dont know if "Thank you" is the right answer, but it means alot to me that you feel it is inspiring.
Of course, I have really bad moments in between, thinking about her every day, and some days it feels almost hopeless to get through. But it helps me doing things and organizing events in her memory, and also getting back to work, music and pinball and friends makes the days pass better.

#259 11 months ago

Sorry to hear about your loss and what a nice way to honour her!

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#260 4 months ago

I am going through the days,weeks and months, working 60 - 80 % as much as I manage, and life is in its way going forward. What really gives me energy and a feeling of being alive, is actually competitive pinball tournaments. Thats the only time I am 100 % in the here and now, in the world under glass. The exitement, the nerves, the anger, it all boils down to competitive pinball.

This weekend I am arranging another memorial tournament, and players from sweden and finland are coming, as well as ppl from different parts of norway.
Hopefully we will not cancel because of Corona, we will see the next days but as of now I hope to run it. We will be max 25 - 30 players so..

I got some personalized trophies for the three tournaments, and will supply additional prizes with some austrian wine and some rock and morty and game of thrones (both of which she loved) prizes. Scattering photos of her life and friends around the prize table. Looking forward to this!

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#261 4 months ago

The Corona Virus can't stop the world my friend, just delay it a bit it seems. Sooner or later people will come around again, and if they can't, I'm certain it will be with great regret. Stay strong, and chin up!

#262 4 months ago

Just seeing this thread now, my condolences... Im glad you have these happy memories to help you through the tough times. For me, pinball screams "FUN." Glad to see the two of you have such fun and your keeping it going in your own way

#263 4 months ago

Thanks for the update

#264 4 months ago

I am so sorry to now hear of your loss and it is very precious how you honour and share Her memory.

I know of your pain, my wife was taken May 9, 2012 by pancreatic c. Maybe everyone handles it differently and in their own way but for what its worth perhaps my words can give some small solace out there:

- Year one was the hardest, dealing with the grief and trying to figure out who this new 'me' was without Her.

- Finally, in a year, had to break out, get away from the house, go on a sojourn, visit old friends, test and push myself.

- Came back just enough of a new me to be very brave and open a few drawers, clean out a few closets. It was impossibly hard to take Her wedding dress to the local charity shop, but I knew I had to do this. Teary eyed, I just said, 'Here, please take this from me.'

- It was almost, not quite but almost uplifting to get my old, long forgotten bachelor boxes of stuff from the basement and begin redecorating the place and putting my mark on it. Yes, that was hard but necessary for this new me and equally so replacing the many reminders and memorabilia of Us and Her with just a choice few. Her sweet new little sandals we bought together still lay untouched in the bedroom, where She took them off for the last time.

- Finally, after three years my body, more so than my mind, caved in and started dating. What a disaster! No it's not like riding a bike again, more like, actually worse than an awkward teenager fumbling around looking for some sort of start button. Slowly though, my match making lady neighbours and girl 'friends' did what they do best and slyly campaigned to enhance my awareness of their single girlfriends. Talk about a disturbance in the force, little did I know of this sisterhood and its machinations. For every such lovely date was backed by an all too watchful matchmaker friend, essentially an extra new mother in law. Soon after a few of these dates and settling on none, it seemed I was suddenly friendless and deemed ungracious! Oh blessed bachelorhood, not trying at all seems to be working way better now!

- Well it's going to be eight years later soon and who did I spend this winter with, worshipping, spending, slaving over and yet being saved by...those beautiful Bally girls from Atlantis, my first pin.

Hopefully, you find a few grains of hope, humour and perseverance in all this, maybe even see a slow progression from sad to glad (and just maybe I do too!)

Best Wishes

(together 2008)

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