The OP's problem is that he's a wimp.

That's not intended to be an insult.

All he has to do is refuse to go along with all this crap and it will all be over. Just put your foot down and it's over and done with.

People treat you the way you allow them to treat you.

You're mistaking me for someone else.

It doesn't matter anyway, your argument is invalid.

There is a long list of logic fallacies, mistakes that people make when they are arguing.

I mean that literally, they compiled a long list of fallacies.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_fallacies

Some of the fallacies are very subtle and tricky, some are blatantly obvious.

Your argument is pure ad-hominem fallacy. That's one of the most stupid and obvious fallacies.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ad_hominem

The OP is making the general claim that his family of f-ck-ups is screwing up his life.

So what is the antidote to that situation?

Certainly he's not going to change them into high quality people, full of good ideas and devoted to doing a hard day's work.

So the remaining option is for him to refuse to participate. That would require him to grow a spine.

There are no other alternatives to choose from.

"A couple of weeks ago my wife texts me and says we are having a tattoo party. Well its Jordan. I said he's an artist? My wife says, not really but he wants to try ..and then asks me if I want a tattoo? I said no.
So I come home and there it is happening , my wife is getting a tattoo..the machines humming my wife's face is scrunched and Jordan is carefully crafting something small and unrecognizable of anything on her wrist. My wife is excited and asks the worst question she could of asked me: what does it look like??? I said a butterfly. I was close, it was a firefly and the worst firefly I have seen. I said privately how much is this costing?? Oh just 80 bucks. My wife had to get it fixed by a professional."

The above is so over the line that's kind of amazing.

The OP's family throws a tattoo party in HIS house.

Because the loser BIL wants to PRACTICE on his family.

Then the OP gets charged $80

And the OP has to pay to get it fixed.

Nobody in the OP's family has any respect for him at all, including his wife.

Again, my marital status is irrelevant to the discussion.

On a side note, please don't tell my wife that I'm not married. When we said our marriage vows in church and then bought a house together, she was left with the impression that we're married. Don't spoil it for her.

Your argument is wrong on two counts.

First, you suggest that there are just two alternatives: caving in to whatever your wife wants, or divorce. There is actually a third option where you grow a spine, stand up for yourself, and don't get divorced. I can assure you that the average guy can put a stop to amateur tattoo parties in his own house without ending up divorced over it.

Second, you suggest that putting up with abuse and being unhappy is preferable to divorce. I disagree. If one of your wife's rules for staying married to you is letting her trailer-park loser relatives treat you like dirt, then I say divorce is preferable.

The irony of caving in to people is that they hate you for it. Especially women.