While I do feel some of the rules of modern games are complicated for the sake of being complicated, I think the key to modern games is having the time/desire/accessibility to the game to figuring it out. The rulesets are far beyond the days of "everything you need to know is printed on the playfield or apron card".
Watching tutorial videos helps, but nothing will substitute for actual experience. The videos cannot capture every what-if scenario. "Situational Awareness" as I like to call it, comes from actually standing at the machine with many hours of play.
I don't think the rules are too complicated for kids per se, they just are not as interested in pinball like the older generations. In my experience when kids ("younger people" is probably more accurate) are really into pinball, they know WAY more than I do and start rattling off these obscure strategies and nuances and know the Easter eggs and how to find the hidden points. Their brains are still in the absorbing phase, whereas I feel my storage bank is full with so many things not even related to pinball. Therefore, I either need to delete data, or refuse access