Man, I still think you have this completely backwards....

You "cant blame HIM" for breaking his word, but you CAN have all kinds of venom for the guy he sold it to?

Who knows what the other buyer said or did. All you know for sure it 2 things:
1. he said he'd sell it to you
2. he didn't.

Blaming the other buyer seems ridiculous.

It the Seller had any class, he'd have simply said- "sorry, dude, you just missed it, its sold" end of story. Thats not what happened. Either he wasnt so sure about your deal or he changed his mind.

Oh, FFS!

Coerce? Give me a break.... $20 says the "coercion" went something like this:

James: Ill take it!
Seller: Cool, come on over and pick it up.
James: Well, you know its Mothers Day and all and I'm kinda busy tomorrow too, how about Tuesday?
Seller: Eh, ok, that's fine.
Motivated Buyer: Hey is that pin sold?
Seller: Yes, the guys busy, but he's going to come in a couple days for it....
Motivated Buyer: So its not paid for or anything?
Seller: well, no....
Motivated Buyer: Ahhh, if I had a nickle for everyone who changed their minds a few days later and then never showed up. I can be there in 60 minutes, cash in hand.... no waiting, no risk of the other guy getting "too busy": again or changing his mind.
Seller: Hmmm. ok.

Yeah... it was probably a regular "water-boarding" style coercion!

huh?

Sounds like your a firm believer in first to pay, first to play, eh?

I agree with you, though, lots of shady sellers in this hobby....

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Guess it was ME that was ASSuming.