I know exactly what you mean. I am usually pretty quiet when I find things weren't as described. I just do what needs to be done and keep my mouth shut. That way, if they ever do come back at me for something they aren't happy with, I have ammunition to defend myself or at least to create a wash situation. If you make a deal, and still end up going through with it, even if you're hesitant at the last second for whatever reason, you're kinda shit out of luck in most cases.
Oh, and I learned early on that a lot of pin people seem to eventually strip the shit out of their leg bolts. I've had to change the leg bolt plates on at least 75% of the pins I buy or trade for (costs less than $20 to replace all 4). People are impatient I guess.
"Hey man, looks like it's going in crooked, I think you're cross threading it."
"Nah, it's just really hard to turn. It'll get easier as I go. And I ain't got time to back it out and start over."