I agree with Rarehero and see little merit in recommending a specific pin or a few pins. All pins can be made amateur friendly and easy. Even TWD for example has tons of mods to reduce or close the outlanes, decrease drains, etc, and can be made to play easy.
Pick a pinball theme your wife likes, and hopefully you, that can be characterized as playing fast, and rates in the top 100 (no need to measurebate any more as the rating system is pretty much useless outside of very gross estimates). Adjust the playfield as needed to make it play the way you prefer for ease. IMO, with an appealing theme and play, your wife and you should be happy. And such mods are often quickly added/removed/changed. Certainly all the pins you listed originally can be made to play easier and have flexibility.