Quoted from PW79:How many children do you have?
I’ve got two & life is short so I’m unlikely to squander my time on driving.
To some folks time & leisure is the ultimate currency so shipping is required.
I agree with you however that it is a risk. One that I too try to avoid.
I am the bonus parent of a 5 yr old who I am calling my son as I wed his mom later this year.
I love dead beat dads that screw and run. Gives those who have their act, life, and shit together the opportunity to make someone else's life better, as well as their child.
I waited 1 month to go get CFTBL because I had to coordinate the timing around when her son would be with his "real father". Guy has 3 kids, each with a different woman, no job, and is a "dependapotomous" to a reserve member that he is now married to. While we were getting CFTBL, we did a FaceTime video chat to her son. His real father was playing video games, making his son sit there and watch him.
So, yep, I work my schedule around my adopted son. Service before self.
Sorry to be preachy. I just loathe people who screw, have a kid, and run from the responsibility and consequences of their actions.