I would never try and make somebody feel bad for spending their hard earned disposable income on something they enjoy and then turn around and expect them to put me through school. Tons of people work multiple jobs just so they can afford college. If you want to better yourself get off your butt and make it happen don't expect somebody else to do it for you. As for relationships, I think you have to first make yourself happy and successful on your own. Then you have happiness and success to share with somebody. If the other person is miserable and needs you to make them happy or successful then they are not adding anything to the relationship and it will eventually fall apart and make you miserable too. You know what they say misery loves company.