Had an uncle leave my aunt after 30+ years. He had a fling with a younger woman and they made a baby. He ended up eventually leaving the younger woman and my aunt took him back. People are gonna do what they are gonna do and I would not try to fix it else you risk damaging your relationship with her.

He's probably using Space-A travel which is available to retirees.

Did you actually leave your wife, or was it a secret affair? If the latter, did you tell her? It sounds like you did. My aunt was a housewife and I just wonder how much that plays into taking a spouse back? That's the ultimate betrayal unless it's an open marriage. So I would have trust issues and wonder if the partner that left me really loves me? But hey, she gave him her best years and has 30+ years invested in this, so maybe she's gonna stick it out for the security and the payoff when he probably dies first?

It's either that or a good attorney. God will forgive you everytime and he is much cheaper...

God's forgiveness isn't the hard part in asking forgiveness. I think that is what he was suggesting.

Screw around on your wife. Ask God for forgiveness, then ask your wife. Which was easier??

Maybe so. None of us are perfect and I can certainly understand if they got away with it, why bring it up? Just try to learn from your mistakes I suppose.

This thread reminds me of someone my wife knew. She was with a man who left his wife, but hadn't divorced yet, or updated his will, life insurance etc. He has a heart attack and is on life support. The wife signs the paperwork to pull the plug at first opportunity. He died. That is nasty, but I get it....