Quoted from gambit3113:
Yeah, that's some machismo BS, honestly. "Dudes just aren't good at showing emotions" and "Society is getting pussified" are just excuses to continue down an ignorant and head buried in the sand existence. The essence of life is not simply to take what you get or give what you want. There are as many happy endings as there are people willing to make actual strides and do actual work to grow and learn. Emotional scars and physical pains are issues that need and require the work to accept and overcome. And people actually speaking out and acknowledging stress, emotional battles, pain, and mental health issues isn't as a result of the "Karens" of the world taking over. It's simply people actually taking the time to find a healthier and happier way to go about the dim and black clouded existence that you describe so well. Someone wanting more happiness and satisfaction out of life and marriage isn't an affront to masculinity. But masculine insistence that you take what you get because I'm too tired is not an acceptable way to manage a relationship.
Ha, this is funny...perfect example of twisting comments to fit your own narrative. I said nothing of the sort. Life is good, and I am completely comfortable with my existence but based on the anger in your post, maybe you are living under the black cloud. I was simply pointing out that everyone expresses themselves differently, and it doesn't mean the sentiment is not there. Some guys might think buying their woman a new set of snow tires is a better way to show their affection than a vase of flowers, and who am I to say that is right or wrong? Who says the fairytales portrayed in movies are really the key to a happy relationship? Maybe they are for some, and maybe they aren't for others, but I don't think another person's opinion really counts in someone else's relationship. I do think many people looking for happiness, think what they see in the movies is what they really want....but they are so busy looking at what someone else thinks is ideal, they forget to look inside and make that decision for themselves. They end up chasing something that in the end just leaves them unhappy. Like it or not, life experiences play a part in everyone's relationships...again, some more than others. It doesn't mean they aren't working at the relationship....it doesn't mean they are any less of a person or that the sentiment isn't there. You are basing your opinion on your beliefs, but we are all different. To me, your opinion might be the real "machismo BS" in trying to prove to the world you are better at a relationship than anyone else.
It's the same thing with the obsession for what we are told is "beauty". I am not at all saying a person shouldn't work hard and take care of their body, but women are conditioned to think looking a certain way and being a certain size is the only way to be beautiful, and again, that is just an opinion. True beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and in my world, Cosmo doesn't get to dictate what that looks like.
As to the "Karens" of the world, I said nothing of people trying to live a healthier and happier life. When I refer to a "Karen"....I am referring to those that get offended at the drop of a hat about everything in life they don't happen to agree with. We are all different, we all live different lives, and what truly makes each one of us happy is just as diverse. There is no right or wrong for us to judge by, and no reason to get offended when someone has a different opinion.