Quoted from Blackbeard:
Trust me, dont do this. Gift cards scream “I gave zero thought” which in turn is interpreted as you don’t care.
Get together with one of her close friends or mom and figure out (if you don’t know) what sorta ring she’d wear, and surprise her.
Also, try to locate said $25 ring as well and incorporate it in Christmas, along with the more expensive ring. Maybe in her stocking.
Go the extra mile here. Woman really notice this crap.
What I just ended up doing is this:
She enjoys working in her yard, and she had been looking at my leaf blower and asking questions. (she has a cheap electric one).
I told her the story of how I regretted not getting her that $25 ring because she does not ask for much, but at the time I was fulfilling a Dollywood season pass and trip I had told her we would take, and I had a rental house mess up at the same time that was going to cost me a lot of money and have downtime until it was ready to rent again.
So, at the time when I suddenly had expensive problems, another $25 was just a added aggravation and I am so sorry about that. I regret that, I was just not in the best mood.
So anyway, if you want a leaf blower like mine I will get you one for Christmas. If you would rather have a ring, you can pick out what you want on a $300 budget.
That thrilled her and we have been shopping and she was happy I went to stores with her.
Then she ordered online, and messed the order up a little, and afraid I was mad. And I was not mad, I had a long day working and was tired and I fixed everything later.
Anyway, as far as ring shopping, she loved some $2000 rings, and hinted a tad, looked at my face and went back to budget.
In the end she listened to me. Go after gold content, diamonds are super inflated, and really not worth much, and a whole lot harder to sell than gold. I think she picked a sapphire something with decent gold weight.
My lady is awesome, loves pinball even more than I do. (shoulder gets to hurting after a kick ass game and have to sit a while and she keeps playing).
And now she is also awesome with that diamond crap. She researched a tad and seen I knew what I am talking about.
She also understands now that any ring or anything jewelry related best scrap value you may hope for is 10% or so.
Jewelry is pretty much the biggest rip off possible, and even worse from a retail source.
And I hate this time of year. Every other commercial on tv is a "he went to Jared". Or a new car with a big ass red bow on the roof.
It took a minute, but my lady gets it now. Yes, sometime I could spend 8000 on a game, and if we get tired of it I can sell it for 7000 pretty fast and we will get something new to play.
But, if I spend 8000 on a ring, and anything happens with it, good luck getting more than 800 back.
She gets it. Pinball machines are awesome and most of the time hold their value, and jewelry is a rip-off.
And no, I have never been married, and I still do not want that, I am self employed and I like everything the way it is with all that tax stuff. (not to mention the losing half your shit and lawyers fees).
But, if she stays long term with me, grows old with me, damn straight down the road I will have a new will done to make sure she gets everything should anything happen to me. (I would not tell her, I doubt she would try to speed the process up, but you never know).
Hell, I do know I can not tell her a damn thing that her Mom will repeat back to my Mom. And that is the biggest thing I hate...loose lips. I guess that is my fault anyway for being too open sometimes.
Anyway, Happy Thanksgiving!