I have a 73 gottlieb so going off that I can't even see any connection to the outhole and the start relay.
Just want to make sure when you say it's reseting you mean the S relay pulls in and the player unit cycles around to reset the reels and go to ball one, player one?
Maybe somewhere in the coin door there's some mis-aligned fish paper or dampening blade that's shorting a switch somewhere like this? http://www.pinrepair.com/em/gtbswbad.jpg
Have you tired making sure the coin door itself is grounded and nothing is shorting against it? I spent 3 days chasing an issue before where coils were activating because switches were shorting up against the metal frame.
Other then that the only thing I can think of is check the S relay itself, though considering you said unplugging the coin door fixes the problem I don't think that's the issue. Does everything still work properly if you unplug the coin door, and manually start a game by actuating S with your finger?