no real sucess yet but progress:
*i switched the new relay with the GI relay board in backbox, and the backbox GI lights lit up as should. So to my surprise, it seems relay i was sent was actually an okay replacement, and did not create this issue.
*I did switch test and it told me C power for AC relay was stuck on. That would explain why the A side relays are not working. Through reading, it sounds like C power being stuck on is probably caused by a blown transistor for AC relay. I need to confirm but i read its usually Q8, which is next to Q9 that exploded, so that sounds pretty reasonable.
*i had ordered tip122s to replace blown ones, but now have read they should be replaced with tip102s, which i think i have. I also found a 7408 (U19) incase it gets to that.
So, it seems once i get bad transistors replaced, my main predicament is making sure this doesnt happen again. aka, for some reason plugging in playfield GI relay blows GI relay transistor. what should i be looking for as far as "bad wiring" goes? the connectors at the relay are correct and look fine.