I feel your pain. My favorite aunt is not doing well at all right now and in the hospital, and my Mom has such bad memory loss I sometimes have to answer the same question 3 times in 5 minutes.
I hope you, me, and everyone can always have the best life possible.
And things can get crazy really fast, and just change your whole world upside down.
I have been in bad times, in the past, I know those pains.
The last 2 years of my Dads life I helped take care of him in his hospital like bed, in the den of my house. We took care of him here, he never went to a nursing home or any of that.
From Strokes my Dad was basically paralyzed his last 2 years, could not stand up at all, in a bed in my den, with nurses coming by daily for diaper changes and baths, etc.
Before that Dad was blind for 20 years from diabetes.
I am so sorry your Mom has cancer.
Luckily most things do get better, even though sadness will also be nearby.
If everyone could just stay positive as possible, and try to help others, AND try to help someone to smile, it helps a lot.
(and this belongs in the confessional but I will say it here now: When my Dad passed I never shed a tear. He had been blind for 20 years, and the last 2 years not only was he 90% paralyzed from strokes and could not even get out of bed, but also the last 30 years he had Mainers Disease, and was constantly sick like full blown food poisoning kind of sick.
My Dad had a very strong will to live, and as sick as I seen him for years I never understood it, for me if I was that sick I would be wanting to pass on.
Dad was awesome! He raised me great and taught me skills that I have made a career out of!
Anyway, sorry for the long rant.
I love to come here and joke around and try to help someone to smile, because I suck at working on games, so I am no help there.
2020 has really sucked, but I am so glad we have Pinside, this site and 99% of everyone here is awesome!
And the other 1% that is always negative maybe just needs a hug also?
And not the confessional but I will confess I am not a "huggy" person in person, so I do like the fist bump and we stay 6 feet apart.
And again, I am so sorry to hear about the cancer. If there is anyway you can, help with her in your den, like I helped with my Dad.
Nursing homes suck, if you can help at all never send a loved one there.
And like I said, a awesome nurse came to my house the last 2 years of my Dads life to help with him.
Sorry for the rant. But I hope it helps someone here. Life can suck as we get older.