I work, have a good job, make decent money, my wife no longer works.
I can't tell you anything about any of my finances, bills, retirement, etc., wife takes care of all that. I know we're in good shape and funding is good, but couldn't tell you what goes where.
I wouldn't have to ask "permission" but I sure would have to inquire "Can we handle this?"
I've never backed out of something because of my wife, but I've also not committed to things based on what she tells me we can/can't do.
She would love this to not be the case btw, but I have 0 understanding of finances, rates, deductibles, etc.