That.

There's a world of difference between "that's just your hobby, I don't get it but if it makes you happy, then it makes me happy" and "pinball is a stupid hobby and I don't want to know about it, hear about it, or talk about it. Now let's go shopping for pillows."

when my girlfriend of 2 years plays pinball with me she still hits both flippers at the same time repeatedly everytime the ball rolls toward the flippers. after numerous attempts to get her to concentrate on 1 flippers at a time. i gave up. drives me f!@#kin crazy!

Get prepared for lots of eye rolls.

My wife doesn’t share any of my hobbies. I don’t share to much about what I’m going to do. She knows that I’m going to do what I want anyways. If I spend my money on a game and just show up at home with a new toy she doesn’t really care. Why get mad at me when it’s not going to change who I am. We’ve been together for over 15 years, almost married for a decade.

If she wants to change you then she’s not worth keeping. Find someone that accepts you as you are.

I'm very blessed.

My girl isn't into pinball to the same degree as I am, but she enjoys playing and knows when she's playing well and gets pissed when she loses a ball she shouldn't have. That to me defines a player. We seek out pins in the wild together and she's gone to a few shows with me.

She shares in some of my hobbies and I share in some of hers. We also have our own things that are ours alone.

I love her for who she is and she loves me as I am.

It's not easy to find and a lot of time was wasted along the way, but I found it.

Life is short, settle for nothing less.

I have been married to a non-pinball girl for 32 years but collecting for only 6. All I hear when I buy a new game is "isn't 7 of them enough already? One can come in but one must go out! You paid how much for that? etc"

I found that just bring them in when she's not home as she never goes into the basement anyway and its always easier to ask for forgiveness than permission - cause the answer to that is NO.

Question is what are you looking for? If you are looking for someone who shares your identical hobbies, you've just greatly narrowed your dating pool. I would say seek out someone who is genuinely supportive of your interests (and you in hers). Shared interests are a bonus, but if she doesn't live and breathe pinball, it really shouldn't be a deal breaker IMHO. My wife and share a love of food and netflix, but that's basically it. Even so, I've never had more fun with anyone in my life (married 6 years, together for 16 years). When you are with someone for a long time, I think it's more important to have separate (and shared interests) to keep things fresh and preserve sanity.

I’ve been married for 15 years and with my wife for 20. She has had almost no interest in pinball.
Occasionally I’ll come home and she’ll be playing, which I crack up about. She has admitted to me that she really likes DI though.
I’m 47 and grew up playing and never imagined owning my own pins, but once you buy one, you then want another.
Eventually you’ll own a game she likes and she’ll play when you’re not around. I showed my wife initially how to turn on the game and I think she likes to play when nobody is around.

I’m 60 now, and have been into pins since I was a teenager. Bought my first pin in 1990. My wife started to freak out when she started to see how much money I was spending, and how many pins I was bringing into the home. It wasn’t until we moved into another house and I had to sell the pins that she realized how much money I had made by selling them when I did. After that she never said a word and in fact has bought me three new in box pinball machines. I think the resale value helped a lot in my case.

Play split flipper with her and she will come around.

If she cares about your interests, but isn't into some of them. You can work it out, and be respectful of her interests.

If she is against you having a life, only use her for booty calls. She'll move on eventually. Or dump her in an instant if the right one comes along.

LTG : )

Does not compute ....

Well said! If you are dating someone that isn't accepting of the things that are important to you, then you are probably dating the wrong person.

Let's be real, half the autistic neckbeards in this hobby wish they had a problem like this.

It's ok if she's not into it as long as she doesn't care that you are. I will tell you one thing though for sure, if you let a woman change who you are you are making the biggest mistake of your life.

Play naked for favors

I'm sure she can change the man.

You left out one important detail, how hot is she?

Don’t forget that 100% of all divorces are caused by marriage.

My wife is not interested in pinball at all and I'm fine with that. Her interests include home decorating, working out and being very active in most of our children's activities. I think that some time apart is healthy for most couples.

I'm at roughly 38 pins (all Stern) and blew out the basement just over a year ago so we could add some more video games and, of course, a few more pinball machines. Through all of this, she's never uttered a peep with the exception of when one of the builders made the mistake of using our first floor bathroom without taking his shoes off.

When I first got into the hobby, I purchased games that I thought my family would enjoy. As it turns out, none of them are fans of the silver ball and that is OK with me.

So, if you are saying that she actively dislikes the hobby. And also with

Dude, get out. The first 3 months are when people are still on best behavior / supposed to be pretty smooth going. It doesn't go up from here, it goes worse.

I BEG your pardon!

My wife only likes these 2 machines and she will say "can you play that game far far away" or how bout that game "another time" I tell her I just prefer to play That game one more time

It makes it harder to use the line "Do you want to play with my balls?"

You on one flipper and her on the other.

Just because she's not into pinball now doesn't mean that might not change in the future.

I wasn't into pinball when I met my husband. Wasn't something I grew up with. Thought it was OK when we played at arcades and bars but not something I would go out of my way to do. After we got married, bought a house and got our first pin - I figured I'd rarely play it but knew it was important to him. Having one at home changed things for me. It let me spend time playing outside of a bar/arcade scene where it's often loud and you can't hear the call outs or the volume is turned down. I finally started understanding that each game had rules and how to figure out those rules. I had opportunities to play on my own without anyone watching - which made made me more willing to try things and figure out new skills. Didn't have to shove quarters in - so that made it OK to have short ball times and learn more about being a decent player. Having one at home and having time to learn in a no pressure environment is really what allowed me to move from indifference to something I very much enjoy.

You need to watch this:

See above

Who gives a F what they think about pinball

If she's a keeper hopefully she'll understand the nerd factor. There aren't any that will like it, so what.

I'm much happier that my wife and girls DON'T want to invade my pinball space now. I tried, now its don't bother me in the man cave!

its like the guys that play golf with their wives........
something i wouldnt do. sometimes you need time to yourselves. nothing wrong with that.

I play every Sunday morning with my best friend from high school.

His wife showed up at the club one day to "surprise us." Luckily, my buddy still has his spine and balls intact and it never happened again.

it's easy... enjoy the time she's not around...

Your answer lies in three common pinball parts...

Screw, nut, bolt.

Easiest solution I’ve found - Just date multiple women!

A bunch of my old fighter pilot buddies say this always reminds them of me....

Once upon a time a fighter pilot found a beautiful princess and asked her, "Will you marry me?"

The princess said, "No!"

And the fighter pilot lived happily ever after and flew fast pointy-nosed jets all over the world and drove hot cars and chased skinny long-legged big-breasted flight attendants and hunted and fished and went to topless bars and dated women half his age and drank Weihenstephaner German beer and Sailor Jerry’s and never heard bitching and never paid child support or alimony and kept his house and guns and ate cold leftover meals, potato chips and beans and blew enormous farts and never got cheated on while he was at work and all his friends and family thought he was frickin' cool as hell and he had tons of money in the bank and left the toilet seat up........

The End....

That is almost worthy of a key post designation.

No truer words have ever been spoken

Text her " hey baby girl did you know that spinners are not included in a pro model Stern?"

try being married to a woman who shares none of your interest...lol..it blows

It's easy - just go on any date... with any woman!

J/k... trooper is right - your life
Is so much better if you have some interests in common. I've tried it both ways; the first was a disaster because we never had common ground to come back to when we had disagreements. Kind of key.

But it doesn't have to be pinball!

real nice pinball couple

Seriously, WHY would you ever date a SO that does not embrace your hobbies and what you enjoy? Life is much too short for that nonsense!

So many amazing, beautiful, intelligent, funny, horny women out in the world to share your life with... might as well find one that enjoys your biggest hobbies.

My wife has basically stopped giving a shit about my pinball addiction. (Just the way I like it). While she doesn't support it, she knows better than to make a stupid comment. I just have to open her walking closet and settle the clothesgurment / shoesgurment / pursegurment not to mention the beautygurment products invading the bathroom.