Just wanted to follow up with this in case anyone else stumbles across it.
I put a little hat (of sorts) on the part of right flipper leaf switch that controls the upper right flipper (to disable the flipper). The fuse did blow while playing, so now I knew it was the lower right flipper. Not sure why I had been fixated on the upper right all along - but perhaps because it always seemed to happen while hitting hard to make the ramp shot.
I then started messing with both right EOS switches, wondering maybe they weren't opening enough at full extension of the flipper. My very next game, the upper right flipper was weak, really weak, and then it started getting stronger with each flip, until finally the fuse blew (and it happened pretty quick, maybe in 20 flips total...which was much quicker than normal). I look at it again, the EOS was not closed at rest (and it should have been, this is a normally closed switch).
So...now I realize that the problem all along has been EOS switches not closed when at rest. I adjusted both right side EOS to ensure they are tightly closed at rest, and no more problems.
Though it was frustrating to spend weeks troubleshooting something that turned out to be a tool-less 20 second fix, it was a good lesson to learn. I just wasn't aware that an open EOS could cause this. And, the fuse that was blowing isn't the one I would have expected, given that it seemed to be a flipper issue.
The lesson came in handy when after finally getting the right side working, I almost immediately blew the same fuse flipping the left flipper (it had never happened from that before). I changed out the old pitted, charred EOS, made sure it was adjusted correctly, and back to playing in no time.
Thanks all!