Haven't had it quite as bad as you. Recently, I had a guy back out of a deal after I sent him a deposit. Fortunately, it was the next or two day and he refunded my deposit. I had already started making arrangements to make the 8 to 10 hour drive to get it (4.5 hrs or so each way), so I wasn't out anything. Just disappointed as I was looking forward to getting the game. I suspect he got a better offer, but he said his son wanted to keep the game. Such is life.
Hope you are able to make lemonade out of the lemons and have a good trip!