Quoted from DaWezl:

You haven’t chased all of us off but there’s really not much for me to comment on here. I have a strong partnership with my husband, yours/mine/ours finances so we don’t have to ask each other permission to pursue our hobbies, and a lot of trust we’ve built up in our relationship over the years so we can calmly talk through disagreements when any arise. Bonus is that he doesn’t even complain when I ask him to help me move my pins. But not sure what’s even helpful to say to anyone who settles for less but then wants to complain about it, (regardless of gender).