Wow, this thread is depressing.
I've been on both sides of a marriage, one I thought would surely end in divorce, and one that I hope lasts forever. It's to the same woman. I can also say that there have been several other men in my situation. Anxiety medication is the key difference.
My wife was non-stop with the "this and that". Everything had to be just so, and I never did enough this, and I always do too much that, etc. It was a nightmare. I read books, did all the little things, worked hard to give her compliments and gifts and whatever else. Nothing worked. We fought every day, several times per day. I wanted out.
Then she got on anxiety medication. It's been marital bliss ever since. Not one single argument in 7 years.
Did you read that line?
We went from several arguments per day, to NOT A SINGLE ONE IN SEVEN YEARS!
It's been awesome. I love it. Best marriage ever thanks to the anxiety meds. Problems aren't us vs each other, it's us versus the problem. We are teammates. And now we're teammates in pinball! Wooo!
Anyway, my story. Happy wife, happy life? Pre-anxiety meds I would agree. Post-anxiety meds I would say there's room for everyone to be happy.