I always thought the trick was to start out with a happy woman, and be happy or at least content/at peace with yourself.
My wife is a comedian, and she's the one who got me back into pinball, our first date was Musee mechanique, she introduced me to her friends who own a pinball museum and doesn't blink when a new game shows up.
I do remember overhearing a wife at a tournament say
" Winning at pinball equals losing at life", musta been one of your guys ex's.
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Give the wife some hush money!!! She will be just fine!!!

You think so?

When your wife never has to ask you to do anything because you already do what needs done, many times before anyone else even realized it needed done... When you help cook and clean, or run the kids to sports or appointments and do many other things some dudes think isn't their job... When you treat other women, children and people with respect, give to charity, and support your local community... When you stand up for your family and values and defend them whenever necessary by any and all means... When you let your wife collect her bonus before you collect yours... When you do all of that and don't let yourself feel any burden in doing so since it's all the right things to do anyway... Then you tend to have a happy wife and happy life.

Well we all got here somehow. If you have watched the news lately women are being marginalized by biological males and conversion conversations happening by the state as early as elementary school trying to inflict reproductive harm without parental consent to the age of 18. I am more concerned by this than who my mom/sister/daughter decides to date. Might be me but I am focused on preserving this norm vs. the promiscuity double standard of the past.

You haven't met my ex. Except for the kids part, we didn't have any. I did all of the above and more. Call her out of the blue to let her know she was loved. Made sure her car always had gas, and checked tires and fluids, leave a love note or rose on the dash. Always surprised her with notes, flowers, and gifts, for no special occasion. Didn't matter.

One lady on a Renaissance Festival forum told me don't think of it as wasted effort. Think of it as practice for when the right one comes along.

Yeah, I'll get right on that. Like I need another one of them.

LTG : )

Nice guys finish last!

I had a women tell me that once. She said my problem was that I was a nice guy. And nice guys finish last.

I told her yes. But we finish. You are going to die alone.

Funny thing, she never talked to me anymore.

LTG : )

Well, I have been with those types. And with those types, I don’t think you can be held accountable for someone else who refuses to be happy or decent. Some women are toxic too, it’s not always the dudes. Not everyone is marriage material. Sometimes certain people never will be.

Unfortunately it can cost quite a bit learning the hard way or being blindsided by love or lust. Been there too. Maybe after a few bad rounds people change their ways or change what they are looking for in someone. I know of a few love at first sight, happily ever after stories but they’re far outnumbered by all the war stories I’ve heard.

This would be my takeaway from this thread.

Holy cow dude, you’re pretty deep down the rabbit hole with this.

Sounds like the JJP situation

Now that's funny.

And so similar. Neither divorce cost me anymore. At least the ex had the balls to tell me to my face, not send me an email.

LTG : )

So the 'Pro' shows up, costs an arm and leg, didn't really fix the problem or does a crappy repair. Then you end up repairing anyways.

Wouldn’t be too concerned.
If I remember correctly Wu lady seemed more interested in Bond girls and Porsches.

Just use common sense. I buy what I want, as does she. If I want to go out, I do, as does she. And she is the reason we still have a full basement arcade...as I wanted to sell almost everything, and basically get out of the hobby and she said no....

She did blaze in like a comet and then disappeared just as quickly.

Thats the way I usually prefer things

If only if it was that easy.

My anniversary present, she gets me!

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I believe the complete saying is: If it flys, floats, fucks or has wheels; rent it....

Why are all my hobbies such a sausage fest? This is why I’m single.

You could always take up knitting.

Wow, this thread is depressing.

I've been on both sides of a marriage, one I thought would surely end in divorce, and one that I hope lasts forever. It's to the same woman. I can also say that there have been several other men in my situation. Anxiety medication is the key difference.

My wife was non-stop with the "this and that". Everything had to be just so, and I never did enough this, and I always do too much that, etc. It was a nightmare. I read books, did all the little things, worked hard to give her compliments and gifts and whatever else. Nothing worked. We fought every day, several times per day. I wanted out.

Then she got on anxiety medication. It's been marital bliss ever since. Not one single argument in 7 years.

Did you read that line?

We went from several arguments per day, to NOT A SINGLE ONE IN SEVEN YEARS!

It's been awesome. I love it. Best marriage ever thanks to the anxiety meds. Problems aren't us vs each other, it's us versus the problem. We are teammates. And now we're teammates in pinball! Wooo!

Anyway, my story. Happy wife, happy life? Pre-anxiety meds I would agree. Post-anxiety meds I would say there's room for everyone to be happy.

Where's Rachel Ristow? Wish she would see this thread and go ballistic on all you women bashers.

^^This right here!!^^ We've been married 38 years! It only took me a couple years to convince him to get rid of the dinning room furniture to make it the system 11 room!

Phoebe

My wife gets however many Kelly and Birkin bags she wants, no cap.
And I buy whatever I want.

I got married a bit later in life because I did not want money to be an issue.

No. She told me what it was before but I can't remember. I'm sure any will do.

Literally all her friends are on anti-anxiety meds too. Miracle worker for sure.

I have read somewhere that 20% of all women are on some sort of medication for anxiety/depression or anger management.
That is a scary statistic…… it means 80% are running around untreated.

Phoebe, you are the bomb. Larry and you make a great couple, but you’re two years behind me. I’m still trying to convert our dining room. Howie

A year ago my wife told me I should have bought a real pin over a full size virtual pinball machine. I didn’t listen. The vpin has now been sold and she told me “you should have listened to me”. Yup lol, now time to buy a Cactus Canton SE or Godzilla Premium.