New York, NY
Quoted from tomdrum:We discussed everything at length before she moved in. She even traveled with me to pick up project pins in year #2. The issue isn't pinball as much as her desire to decorate the house as she feels fit. Since she has done 2 bathrooms (1 of which I fully remodeled) kitchen, (I installed new countertops and flooring she picked), living room (installed new laminate floors plus redid the staircase in oak) master bedroom (built 2 new closets cedar lined, for her clothes) plus closed off a triangular opening into the upstairs master B/R for more darkness/quiet for sleeping. Huge project, had to source pine tongue and groove 150 miles away to match the existing wall. Had custom stain mixed to match 20 year old UV faded pine. Not easy. I did all this work myself. The last area I haven't remodeled is the basement. It's already nice. But after all my efforts she still whines about the basement needing "a woman's touch". It has 4 working pins, one project, 2 videos, pool table and kegerator. I think keeping my basement as I want is justified.
It's bean counting bro.
Look, you gotta weigh it. She's obviously not going to change. So is the companionship, sex, and whatever else she provides worth the annoyances and the fact that eventually your "mancave" is going to have scented candles, uncomfortable furniture, and be overrun by throwpillows and attractive but useless lighting fixtures?
If so, accept it. If not, dump her. Just remember what a nightmare it can be out there in the dating pool.
I'm a little more stubborn and obnoxious than you, I kept holding out till I found someone who lets me get away with murder. And even then, there's sacrifices. I can't tell you how many league nights or days working in the shop I've missed out on for family dinners in Jersey.
JERSEY for God's sake!!!
