I did not read the whole thread, but why are you starting it all over again?
https://pinside.com/pinball/forum/topic/4-months-of-daily-pinball-playing-and-i-still-have-a-2-mode-curse

I wouldn't focus on your nudging and the outlanes- for now you are doing well there.

You lose most of the balls because your control techniques are failing. (trapping, live catches, drop catches)
Often you try to catch a ball or trapping up at the wrong time, which causes the ball to bounce into the slings, the center drain or shoot back up the inlane too far. You can avoid alot of those drains with simple dead bounces. Those take out the momentum of the ball and you can trap up. Check out my tutorial on Dead Bounces and also the latest one "Shielding".

The MOST IMPORTANT PART is to be able to recognize your mistakes you are doing over and over again. This way you can learn and improve. At my modest pinball level i can do so on most of your drains, and thats how I also improve on my own skills. It takes alot of experience and work. Watch your own videos and identify what went wrong on every drain. (forget the outlane drains for now, thats not your problem). I see alot of potential there, I'm sure you can step up your game alot! It's just a plateau you can overcome.

Also watch other Jurassic Park streams and compare how others handle certain situations and copy their tricks, if they work out for you too.

cheers