You also have to understand this hobby has a lot of people that dont' want to deal with a bunch of extra stuff that's new, read older folks. People that have been in the hobby for decades don't want to deal with new escrow websites, facetiming, etc. It's just one of those things in this case that buyer and seller have different ideas on how to do a deal. His game will sell and OP, you'll find what you are looking for.
Like many others have said buying in person is best, especially for first pin. Even if you load and transport yourself and get the game home there may be a diode lose from travel vibration/moving that caused a coil not to fire. Happended to me. However, if you check it out first, you know it was fine before and can't be mad at seller. You buy with someone else shipping and that happens the first thought is the seller hid something. These machines are finicky for sure.