You certainly have a lot going on in your life. Venting and talking about it is all good. I wish I could help you bud.
BTW, Did you ever get a Seeberg 161 or 201?

Unfortunately, cancer research has been hampered by a very large and powerful group of people that believe a magical sky fairy will save them.

I was given 50/50 chance of survival with cancer when I 39, that was 12 years ago! My wife was there all the way through the treatment etc, was horrible for her and the 4 kids. Chemotherapy and radiotherapy sucked big time but at least my hair stayed put after they said it will fall out, that made me smile.
Life changing moment for sure.

I was diagnosed with a colon cancer 8 years ago, had half of the colon removed and have fortunately been fine since. So the cancer diagnosis is not always a death sentence. It did change my attitude to life however.

Be thankful for every moment, ignore the negative people and don't postpone the important things. All the best for you and your wife!

It's not an easy run... my stepson has Stage 4 brain cancer currently lives with us so that we can keep him as comfortable as possible, and he wants for nothing.
The hardest is watching a vibrant human turning into an empty shell of their former self. Last week my dog was diagnosed with lymphoma so he's on borrowed time as well ...
Tough year ...

First off, fuck cancer.

A few years my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. She is in remission for now but the cancer she had was aggressive and every time she gets a headache or something now, we worry.

Helping her through that and basically being a single parent to our kids, one whom has special needs, was probably the roughest time period of my life.

One of her surgeries caused her to develop a bad infection in her chest, and I had to clean and pack the hole every day. She would cry from the pain as I did it, every day. I'll never forget some of that.

Hold tough everyone, I know personally it almost brought me to my breaking point.

*Hugs*

You too. I think it helps normalize it to know that a lot of us go through the same kind of stuff. It's really hard and it's OK to talk about it.

Hug your wife!

Wife has just had last treatment for melanoma 3 months ago.
She is still recovering from it.
The affects of the treatment.
Right now the tumors are dead.
She is slowly starting to get her energy back.
Lost my dog to cancer in January, a cousin in February, another cousin in September.
Yup. It’s been a rough year.
You just keep going.
Keep fighting.

Sorry man... I know this well.

My wife has had breast cancer two times and skin cancer once. Lost my sister to ovarian, and my Dad to lung cancer (he would have told anyone it was his fault for smoking like a chimney). Never the less... its a huge burden on the patients as well as the care-givers. My wife is tough as nails, sweet as pie. She is a role-model for me... not sure I would have handled all of the poking, prodding, cutting, and reconstruction even remotely as well as she has.

Its weird living with it. Its always there... I remember when she had breast cancer the first time at 35 yrs.... we got through it and thought... "I wonder when it's coming back?" Sure as shit it came back when she was 50.

So its a burden you learn to live with as a survivor and care-giver... so yeah it sucks. You just can't look back too often, always look ahead. Its cliche but you have to look at every day as a gift... try not to let petty crap influence your life. Look to things that bring each other joy... and laugh as much as possible.

Take care.. chin up!

Just caring for a sick person is a tough job. My wife has an auto immune disease for 8 years now. We have had a lot of ups and downs with her health through the years. This has been a huge down year and has been tough. We have been in and out of the emergency room 7 times in the last two months. It has been tough on me and having everything fall on my shoulders. Having to leave work for emergencies and worry about how they are going to react to me taking time off during this. I try not to show the stress I am under to my wife due to how it will make her stress and more sick. I stay strong for her and take on everything that I can. stay positive, up beat, and know it will get better. This year has been one of the toughest but I know there are brighter days ahead, that is what keeps me moving. You also have to take it one day at a time and when you do have a good day, that is a huge win!! During this lock down (which I am still in) When work is done at 5 pm every thursday, I head to the basement and have what I call thirsty Thursday. Beer and pinball for 2 hours then come up and cook dinner. that has been a huge stress reliever this year.

So the only advice on taking care of someone, keep the love in your heart and let it shine through. There will be better days ahead.

Just keep plugging brother. Take it one day at a time. Live in the moment at the moment. Tomorrow will be another day.

This ^^^^
Fuck cancer. I watched my mom take care of my dad for a long time (colon cancer). It takes an incredible amount of compassion and energy to care for someone else close to you. To do this is hard and scary. It can also be one of the most incredible lessons in humanity. To the person you are caring for it is big time heroic. Not many want to ask for help. But when you are there when they need you that moment in your life is priceless.
Just keep on trucking and don’t forget to take care of yourself so you can be strong for others.

My father has stage 4 colon, and while he is still going, I know it's only a matter of time.

My family and I have radically changed our diet, the products we use, and what we are exposed to. The risks of cancer have been studied and published immensely, yet it amazes me how many of us ignore them. I think back to how I lived my first 45 years and it makes me shudder at what I did to myself.