Problem is solved!
With a whole lot of help from pinside and a professional who assisted me via email.
This is what I did:
* I made 100% sure it wasn't the opto(s) itself failing so I connected opto 51 and 71 to the wires connected to an opto that was working and it checked out. Also the trick with the camera from my phone helped to check whether the transistor was working. I checked the receivers by blocking the transistor and shining into the receiver.
* I tried to rule out a broken wire between switches and switches to opto10 board by testing them with the MM, it checked out
* then I read it could be a broken lm339 comparitor. The professional pinball mechanic helped me figure out how to check whether this might be the case, this included shorting a couple of places o the opto board and the receivers (with a diode). If the receiver didnt register and the other shorts did, it would be pretty certain the lm339 was broke. But in the test, nothing registered. So in all probability it wasn't the lm339.
* Now he was pretty certain it was a lose contact or broken wire somewhere.
He adviced me to check for continuity between J209-1 and J3-12. In the test there was no continuity, so it had to be a broken wire or loose contact somewhere. I traced the wire down and after some digging (took me a while) I saw a broken of wire in between a whole lot of other wires. I finally found the other part burried somewhere else: disco!
problem solved.
In hindsight, its a simple little broken wire and I should have checked the J209-1 with J3-12 much earlier in the process. But as this is a learning experience, I've learned alot from this problem and am glad I had to do different kind of tests, even thought it was very frustrating.
Anyway, Thanks alot for all to you guys who adviced me and tought me new tricks
On to the next one