I saw this train wreck coming a mile away.
I have a decent collection of "cool" games in the basement. My wife's sister visits with her family usually 1x-maybe -2x per year. She comes with "family intow": husband (competitive guy that doesn't get out much, may have a little complex..... sort of thing...), 2 young boys (4,6) and new born baby.
He has $ but says he doesn't want to own a pinball because he would play too much, so he just plays the shit out of mine each time he is here. Compliment to me? yeah.... How much play is being a dick about it. You see where this is going.
More of family shows up, good eats, celebration, and family drinking (maybe a bit too much by some). The chatter by some is that he will help cook a meal (taking a real long time), meanwhile have his wife tend to the 3 small children. He tends to brag about how good of a cook he is. We all eat. Then sit and gab. Then people start to break up and watch the game, clean the kitchen, keep gabbing, kids will play - ya know FAMILY USA sort of thing. But this guy over the past 3 nights just dips away into the basement. Meanwhile his kids are still being tended to by the mother (his wife)... plus uncles, G-pa, and family but scuffles, toy tosses, tantrums, and family drama kicks in invariably. In the basement level, KISS is rockin hard , and so is the bottle of wine. (I don't play that much because I like to play but yes as Shatner would say "I GOTTA LIFE".
Things get later, his younger kids break down quicker and "maybe its time for beddy-bye". The mother is nursing on 1 tet, cleaning kitchen with other hand, and separating the 2 fightin' young lads with her leg. (watch the spongebob episode: Rocka-bye-valve) We all help parent of course but YOU KNOW WHEN ITS TIME FOR MOM PLUS DAD to TAKE CHARGE and start the hard parenting. At some point my mother in law says "where is FATHER X"..... Someone will blow his cover and say he is downstairs playing pinball.
IT BLEW UP LAST NIGHT (night 3 of 3)! Thank God, it took his/my Mother-in-Law to have an intervention with him infront of everyone and it was pretty darn uncomfortable but GOLF CLAPS FOR GRANDMA!!!! I feel bad because I could have maybe averted it getting to this point by maybe something like this :
1 "hey I need to keep the plays low on my KISS LE?"
2. "ya know pins tend to overheat"
3. "go to the breaker box and flip the fuse switch- blame it on the house wiring or the damn power company
4. or other claims that I try to limit the plays on my pins? sounds kinda chump
5. "maybe you should get your own"
6. LASTLY my type B personality makes it hard for me to do what's right: "DUDE, its time to be a DAD and give your poor wife a break"
We are all not sure why the wife doesn't step up and stroll down nicely to the basement, grab the "father" by the ear like one of their kids and drag him upstairs to "tend to more important things"
Not sure if he REALLY got it, he's a strong personality and think he may not take the info in and change his ways or adapt and evolve or "GET THE HINT!"
I post this little story for your read, Maybe what I hope to get out of it is hints on how to subtly cut this off at the pass PRIOR to the next time they show. It wont be soon, but already thinking of the NUCLEAR OPTION for some reason on my end about the games. I just have to let his wife and mother-in-law deal with what is probably a deeper problem, its not my place.
HAVE YOU USED SOME SORT OF STRATEGY TO LIMIT VISITORS' TIME IN THE GAME ROOM (but still be nice about it)??? Is there a friction timer thing that can be wired into the power plug? HA